A simple and effective solution : SCREAM.
Courage is not your grandfather’s property that you will get it for free.
It has to be cultivated just like you cultivate your good manners.
Of course if you freeze at the very sight of your archenemy then you need psychiatric treatment….if you feel anything less than that cultivate your courage.
Why do victims take sexual harassment lying down?
Because we women are conditioned not to have courage….we are trained to be cowards.
Do not talk loudly. Why are you going out so late? Why are you wearing such clothes?
Don’t answer back. Don’t laugh so loudly. Sit properly. Walk decently. Why are you taking to boys? Why are you listening to such music? Why have you left your hair all open and flying…..and so many things that try to teach you good manners.
Do this, do not do this….you think you being trained to be a good girl?
NO. You are being trained to be a good slave.
The first things this training takes away is your self respect . Once self respect goes courage follows it out of your life.
What is left?
NOTHING. A piece of meat in the shape of a woman who is destined to believe what is between her legs is more important that what is above her shoulders.
So you try to beat the above mentioned quality analysis?
Well, I don’t know about other countries but in India you are characterless.
And on the top of being characterless you smoke, drink , have friends in the male species, go disco and pubs? You are a whore.
Now who wants to be characterless and a whore? Of course there are a few like me but most of us are satisfied by being called a good woman.
And being a good woman/ slave is a sure shot invitation for exploitation?
Your life revolves around your ass, you have no courage and no self respect? Yes, you are an open invitation.
Yes, we woman were conditioned to fear….through ages. And it will not go away so easily.We woman have been conditioned to fear men. No it is not respect, respect is earned. Fear is thrust upon. The line is not so thin unless you are blind.
So it is fear. We have been living under their rule, letting them dictate our destiny since the first day humans began to take form.
Even on a day to day basis how many woman cringe physically with their senses fired up when we see a unknown man watching us even in a crowded bus stop?
That’s conditioning. A conditioning meant for our survival. But that conditioning has become our nemesis. What was once thought to be coy has become a shame….that shame a burden.
Survival is two things : flight or fight.
We have took flight long enough now is the time to fight.
It’s needs a rude awakening. I slap myself tight if ever I get scared when I see a man watching me with his dirty eyes. That is a way I get out of my conditioning. And I slap myself often.
Yes, you might be physically weaker, even emotionally weaker but you damn well are not mentally weaker.
Have you seen a mother fight for her child? They fight tooth and nail even against the worst of enemies till they win. That is the courage you need to get back the respect our ancestors lost to the male species.
We need men but we don’t need them to trample our spirits, let that be at homes or at office.
So the pervert is your Boss?
Your job depends on him? You have a family to support? You have mortgages? Your career will be finished?
No you won’t lose your job. Fight back. Tooth and Nail. You will be perfectly fine if not immediately then soon after. Maybe you will get all tensed up. Your heart will beat faster. Your palms will sweet but other than that nothing ominous will happen.
If you take it lying down you might be finished a thousand ways but if you fight back trust me nothing wrong will happen.
There is one thing men are scared of : our voices.
They don’t like our pitch and frequency. Use it call the attention of heaven and hell. Don’t give a damn if the world is watching and yours is the only voice. Your throat might hurt, big deal. God gave us the voices because he could not build us like Arnold Schwarzenegger.
Shout the perverts name and his game, shame him right there and then and then be firm on your ground. Point your index finger at him. You need not fear nor be ashamed. You didn’t do anything wrong.
Let people see him. Shout till people know him. But don’t wait for tomorrow . You have to shout right there and then. So he can be caught with guilt and shame written all over his face. And he will have no way to escape or give excuses.
Since in my great country there is no concrete law to protect woman in offices your loud voice is the best way to deal with the perpetrator.
And once he is shamed openly no one will support him.
Maybe he would lose his job or maybe he won’t but never ever will he dare exploit you or anyone else in his life. It will teach a lesson to the fellow scoundrels too.
Yes, a few men from his brotherhood will shun you. Big deal. You go to office to make a living and not get votes from creeps!
Trust me if he is a repeat offender there is a great chance he will lose his job.
If you take it lying down sooner than later people will be calling you names and saying you are giving him sexual favors because you want office favors. If you want to be named and shamed then no one can help you.
Legal battles will take years. Your mental peace will be finished.
As many as 97% of rapists go scot free. This is not my stats but govt. stats. So, rest assured molesters and etc are staying as free as birds.
What to do? When in a battle field you will be muddied and bloodied and you will have to get down to their level. There is no other way.
So don’t think twice. Shout. Like those cheapskate politicians in India.
This technique is used by even loan collectors in India.
When people default on their EMI to banks for too long the loan collectors walk the streets and shout the defaulters name. Yes, defaulters comply immediately. This technique has worked miracles.
Well, like they say ‘Big voices get attentions even if they are not reasonable.’ They don’t say this? No, problem, I am saying it.
The first thing that you got to teach a girl child is not good manners but how and why not to be shy. Believe me you will be doing her a great favor.
Learn and teach how to : SCREAM.
P.S. no, it is not my personal opinion it is being taught across the world where there are not many concrete ways to deal with sexual exploitation.