There are many Phaneesh Murthys in the corporate world across the globe and more so in India. And if you search in places like Mumbai, more so in BPO/KPO the number of these ass heads with their alimentary canal upside down grows Himalayan, protected by their sissy bosses and HR and pampered by their wife’s/ mothers. And till they are caught with their pants down or are cornered through tough legal battles they think they are invincible.
Walk into any corporations today and speak to the woman work force about sexual harassment. There would be as many as 54% who would participate and give names but unofficially. The reason?
Now go into BPO/KPO and ask the same question? Especially in Mumbai.
The number goes as high as 79%. There will be girls who would love to complain but know nothing will come out of it.
This is just the tip of the iceberg because however far we have come into the 21st century we are still into shaming the victim.
Most of the times everyone knows and everyone whispers, some even go as far as making jokes even though the perpetrator is a known repeat offender.
The HR/ CEO and most of the times the entire office knows about the lewd remarks, showing pornography, sending lewd SMS/ MMS, talking and sending explicitly sexual messages, touching, pinching, openly inviting juniors for sexual favors .There is always some proof. There will be tremendous proof with things like SMS/ MMS, mails with porn attached. At times these perpetrators have enough confidence to pass lewd remarks right in the presence of colleagues and juniors who could act as witness. Yet these perpetrators mostly repeat offenders have enough courage to re-repeat their shameful behavior despite verbal and writen complaints.
Why do corporations turn a blind eye?
But First I will try to explain the profile of the typical sex offender in your office
1.They are men mostly in the age bracket of 35 to 55 years of age.
2. They are usually married with more sexual and emotional experience to handle women.
3.They dress well and like to pretend to be younger and you can see them surrounded by the younger work force.
4. They have erratic work hours, coming too early, working too late and being absent during work hours.
5. They are big show offs. They pretend to hold more power than they actually hold. They exaggerate their work profiles and love to drop big names to boost their ego.
6.Many of them suffer from alcohol and pornography addiction.
7.They have a low self image with a history of sexual harassment / assault involving their sisters/ wives/ girlfriends/colleagues .8.Most of them have weight issues and you can see them drastically fluctuating from the lean and mean to the fatso.
9.They like to dress up in T shirts, color their hair, talk loudly, laugh loudly and do things that bring attention to themselves.
10. They use to much cologne, perfumes, talc’s to mask the smell of alcohol.
11.They usually have no respect of hierarchy and try to deal with the lowest in the office on a personal basis.
12. Even though in high position they love to organize picnics, excursions and fancy dress parties and get involved in the most personal way which gives them enough excuse to be close to woman on an unofficial basis.
13.They would like almost everyone to report to them so that they can be in touch with everyone especially the young women.14.They usually befriend the younger women /subordinates because they know the girls are less experienced and too scared to report.
15.They will try to touch you at the least available excuse. A pat on the shoulder or a touch on the elbow.16.They will stand too close when talking.
17.Their eyes are roving and won’t stay on your face too long. And if they stay they are trying to gauge your fear from which they get the pleasure of being powerful.
18.These men love to smoke, drink and get drunk at every excuse and love pornography.
19.They are loud, overly happy or sad, melodramatic and sympathy seekers, womanizers and charmers who love to be flattered and flatter.
20. They pretend to be a mentor and are extremely friendly.
21.They will try to find any excuse to keep you around and if possible till late hours. 22.They will go out of their way to help you so they can gain your confidence.
23.They will involve their family too to befriend you.
24.They will try to be friendly but will never show any respect towards women.
25. They have to be reminded that he is a man and the women is lesser themselves.
26. They will comment on the victims dress, hair, shoes more than necessary.
27. They love small talk or office gossip.28. They will involve the victims in long talks relating to family, friends or jobs just to keep the victim closer.
29.These men usually have superlative egos which are much fragile.
30.A raised voice, a back answer or a firm ‘No’ can make him angry or sulk for hours. They will not stop till they have been apologized to and pampered.
31.Once their fragile egos are hit by a strong ‘No’ they pretend to be the wronged ones and go around the entire office seeking sympathy and trying to blame the victim.
If more than 15 points meet the criteria of someone you know be careful that maybe a sexual predator looking for a victim and if someone meets all the above? be extremely cautious when dealing with him.
Why do corporation turn a blind eye? and what should the victim do? these two topics I will deal in the next posts.